“We’ve been thinking of you” really doesn’t cut it. But what does?

The overall tip: – Check what kind help is wanted first.

• Rather than everyone saying “if there’s anything I can do…”, find out what’s needed and divvy up the jobs. It’s hard to ask for help. However, if you suggest 3 things and ask what’s most useful, it’s easier to say “yes”.
  • Drive kids to activities or your friend to doctors appointments
  • Be chief researcher about treatments
  • Get financial advice
  • Take the dog for a walk
  • Take with your friend out

Meal roster – check for dietary preferences first.

I had four kids under five at one stage. Although looking back it’s a bit of a blur, I’ll never forget my sister in law bringing round food for my freezer and homemade pureed food for my twin babies. As much as the food itself (which was fantastic), it was the sense that someone really cared and actually did something. But you don’t have to cook yourself. Consider these ideas;

• chip in for meal delivery service or weekly fruit & veg
• cook yourselves,
• fill up the freezer, or deliver fresh milk and bread.
• Chip in for an UberEats card.

Cash – pass the hat around

• Money mightn’t heal but it can take the strain out for unforeseen bills or to boost the spirits.

Free but meaningful.

Sometimes, it’s really the thought that counts. So, why not pull a few friends together to create a real difference. Even more, remind people to stay in touch beyond the first week. The result will be that your friend will be supported over the long time it takes to heal.

• Regular contact – remind everyone
• Just sending a text, a letter or making a call to listen or offer a kind word can make someone feel valued and less alone.
• Going to a specific store? Say “send me your list”
• Send a playlist or suggestions of the best TV binge series in their favourite genre.

Pay for help – for lessen the load

• A cleaner
  • Babysitter
  • Personal trainer (to get some happy endorphins going)

Group gift – Sometimes it’s just about the thought

One person who’s thoughtful enough to organise everyone else’s good intentions can make something great happen. So, at Christmas, it’s the perfect time to show you care. It only takes a group of people chipping in a small amount each to give one thing that really makes a difference. Again, perhaps ask for a hint first.

• Magazine or Netflix subscription
• Special experience for the family, toys or vouchers
• Basket of goodies for someone sick – PJs, mags, lip balm, tea etc.
• A gift for a new born that’s useful – See more ideas HERE
• A piece of keepsake jewellery that reminds your friend of your friendship every time it’s worn.

About GroupTogether

Make it easy on yourself and everyone else. Grouptogether lets you set up a page to let everyone chip in and leave a thoughtful message.

• Set up and share a collection link in 1 min flat
• Let everyone chip in and sign the card online. You can print it to give.
• GroupTogether sends reminders,
• It is free to set up and charges only 1.5% transaction processing fees (cheaper than fundraising websites).

Questions?? Contact Julie + Ali at

help@grouptogether.com or learn more at www.GroupTogether.com

Featured image by Joshua Sazon